Decisions
Do you ever feel like there are certain things, people or situations in your life that prevent you from making the decisions that you really want to make or you know would be beneficial for you? Do you keep prolonging it or avoiding it because you feel like you’re stuck or can’t make up your mind? I feel like I’ve gone through that my whole life. It’s really tiring. Sometimes I do wish I didn’t do this to myself. I’m starting to realize a lot of things as I get older. I understand my responsibilities and attachments, but I do feel like I need to let go of a lot of things and just move on so I can move forward. It can be hard but I’m trying, baby steps I guess.
I do feel that I tend to over-think everything, but isn’t that a good thing as well? So you weigh all the pros and cons before you make your final decision? But I guess that’s also what prevents me from doing a lot of things. I do that a lot though, contemplate things about life and which direction I want to see mine go. A lot of people say that life is complicated only if you make it, but sometimes, for me anyways, even when I try to make things simple and easy, it just complicates them even further.
I’m doing one of those posts again where I’m just writing and not really thinking about what I’m writing, so not sure if I’m making any sense. But I’m sure you guys are used to that by now.
Anyhow, FaMESHed is open for July and I’m wearing hair from a place I’ve never blogged before, eep is the store name. They’ve been open since February and I really like this latest style at FaMESHed. It’s casual and carefree. I paired it with the LeLutka hairbase because I love the little wisps that one has. The bikini and coverup from Valentina E are also available at FaMESHed and I paired it off with my most favorite mesh capris, from coldlogic.
So of course then I headed to the beach to ponder some decisions. The beach is always so peaceful and lets me think with a clear head. Where do you usually go to clear your head and think about life?
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Location: Crossing Currents
Walking outside with my dog <3
There are a couple of things I do to step back from the “rat race”, and get a new perspective. As Kallisto, I will walk. Sometimes with the dog, and sometimes not. Also I turn to my music. When I play the keyboard everything around me takes second stage. Worries, people, distractions all poof! 🙂
I enjoy reading your blog strawberry!
I walk alot. ALOT. So I tend to let my mind wander. If I’m in SL and need to ponder I like to hit the surf! It always makes me feel as if I’m really there. By the time I’m done whatever was in my head usually winds up working itself out xD
For me it’s DOUBT. I think it’s my greatest weakness, and my greatest strength. I’ve known so many artists whose life & work seem ruled by total confidence. In some ways I envy their confidence. But I also *doubt* whether so much confidence can really push you to envision powerfully different ideas. Doubt is weakness. Doubt is strength.
oh wow HIPPIE & KESHI – so interesting that you both said Walking! As a kid we’d go on “philosophy walks,” long rambling walks & talks about life and stuff. So great.
I was actually thinking recently if there’s a way to port that RL experience into a virtual world. I think it can’t be walking for the simple reason that you can’t type when your hands are on arrow keys! But can you guys think of what would be another way of Mind Clearing / Life Chatting in virtual space?
I love going to the beach too, so far the majority of my blog posts are at beaches lol
I love taking walks myself too. Lately I’ve been going for a bike ride around my neighborhood though. It’s peaceful during the day. I would love to be able to walk or bike ride as you chat inworld. That’s always an issue when you are exploring a sim with a friend. You have to just stop and type every once in a while unless you are on voice.
Hippie, thank you so much! <3
Vaneeesa, it's interesting what you say about doubt, I never really looked at it that way but you've definitely got something there.
I think life is just too complicated to be makeable. Yes ok, planning the next vacation is easy, but things like careers, relationships or friendships are just too much subjected to chance and coincidences. A lot of smaller and greater things happen all the time and pushes you in all kinds of unexpected directions. That gives you the feeling of being unable to control your life. I do too have that feeling my whole life and sometimes it can be quite frustrating. To over-think decisions makes it worse I think. No matter how hard you think things through, it will always turn out differently anyway. The important pro/cons are often very clear so the thinking is about minor issues mostly and usually a waste of time. If you want to go in some new direction try to use your intuition, go for it and see how things work out. Sometimes it works out badly, but at least you have the illusion of being more in control 😉
PS It doesn’t mean one should make important decisions very fast. Give it time to ripe in your subconscious without giving it actual thought much. Then, after a few days/weeks, make the decision by clearly stating it to yourself.
I tend to do things to please everyone else, rather than myself, I hope I won’t always be this way, as I feel like I deserve to be happy as well.
I’m constantly over-thinking.
In RL when I need some time to clear my head, I like to go to the national park, all the valleys and mountains are so calming. In Sl, I prefer the beach, as I haven’t lived near a beach in RL for so long now 🙁
Your blogs are very appreciated by me, Berry ♥
I totally understand, Berry. I think it shows you are a thoughtful person. I’m sure you’ll make the changes you need. But I suspect it will continue to be a struggle. If you find a way to deal with this, please write a post!
I struggle especially with decisions that lead to changes in relationships with people I care about. Leaving SL was like that but I’ve been unable to break away from the many people I care about.